There is always some part of our body to be …

Comment on My Body, My Host: How I Have Hated You by Shawna Ainslie.

There is always some part of our body to be honored. I think one great flaw in marketing to women (and thus the body culture developed) is that items (bras, swimwear, pants, A-line skirts) are aimed at making your whole body “perfect.” Right there is an assumption that there is a “problem area” that must be “corrected” when the standard isn’t even reality. Julie Anderson and Jackie Cioffa (models) have both written about how the body we see in magazines is not the body that was photographed. All media is pointed at telling us there is something wrong with how we are but if we keep sculpting and chipping and exercising and counting calories we can achieve “perfection.” I’m rambling a bit. I apologize. But how can we love our bodies? The first step is to find our natural voice, the one tucked under layers of toxic messages. Then we need to turn up the volume. My method of doing that is putting my body on the page.

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Charli, Why is it such a hard conclusion to come to? I’ve worked so much on self-love and forgiveness. I’m happy I get to share with wonderful souls like you. <3

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Kate, yes! It is hard not to become what is drummed into us–or at least see that warped version when we look in the mirror. Thank you for being here. 🙂

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Thank you, Elaine. I am really looking forward to supporting other women on their journey to body love.

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