You know when you have a blog and you keep promising yourself you’ll post soon. Today. Tomorrow at the latest? And then it’s many weeks later and all you have to show for your promises are a few drafts and a sense of impending doom associated with your site? So much so that you every time the site is mentioned or comes to mind you clean a different area of your house or work on someone else’s site until you don’t have time left to think about your own? Mentioning this for a friend.
At the beginning of this year, I made a commitment to myself to publish consistent content here. That was a mistake. I knew better. Really, I did. My writing withers and dies when I try to box it in, and what I was attempting was a series on craft and trauma writing. That’s well and good (and is now encapsulated neatly in a syllabus for an online course I’ll be teaching), but it wasn’t good for The Honeyed Quill becuae that does’t work for me.
There is copious advice on how to blog, monetize your blog, advertise your blog, blog your blog, snog your blog, make blog eggnog. As soon as you set up your blog, you are inundated. Judged. Promised more and better if only you do more of this a bit better. Every couple of years I fall into that trap.
Here’s the thing: I don’t write here to make money. I write here to make connections. Let this be a reminder to myself.
Connections happen between me and readers, ideas, or parallels I discover as I craft and re-craft my personal stories to heal, love, or step into joy.
Enough with the boxes. Enough with the optimizing visual content. If I try to do that, I won’t blog.
So. New commitment: Write. When I can. What I can. Just write. Because (and here’s the big secret), I haven’t been writing AT ALL. I have been so overwhelmed by doing just the right blog thing I’m not doing anything.
Again, that’s not working for me. Good thing I know what does work: just writing. No gimmicks. No challenges. No “don’t post that without an image and hashtags and subheadings and the blood of ten faeries.” Just writing.
Anyone care to join?